With my first child, I had a non-medically necessary induction complete with an epidural. While I still had him vaginally, and without any big complications, I felt very strongly that there had to be a better way to give birth. With that belief, I began to research coping techniques while pregnant with my second baby. My research led me to Hypnobabies, and I ended up had a beautiful Hypnobabies hospital birth (Click here to read Oden’s birth story). So, when I found out that I was expecting my third child, I knew I was going to use Hypnobabies for his birth. I began taking the Hypnobabies Childbirth Hypnosis classes in April. Since hypnosis works best when the scripts and tracks are listened to repeatedly to compound the positive messages about birth, I chose to do my “home play” (because Hypnobabies homework is fun!) every single day. This included listening to my hypnosis tracks, practicing my cue words, and having my husband read scripts. Because I have two toddler boys and am always on the run, taking the time to focus, relax, and practice my Hypnobabies tools was like a mini vacation in the middle of the day! I truly enjoyed preparing for Everett’s birth.
My “Guess date” was June 29th. I was patient as it came and went, I was hoping baby would come on July 2nd. Another week went by, and still no change. No pressure waves (Hypnobabies’ word for contractions), no sign of change. I went to my midwife appointments and baby seemed content to stay put. I know that babies know exactly when they should be born, so I was patient. However, as I passed 41 week of pregnancy, I began having intense pressure waves in the evenings and early mornings, making it challenging to sleep. After a few days of this, I was tired and anxious to meet my little one. I tried many “natural” induction techniques: pineapple, pressure points, chiropractic adjustments, walks, sitting on the birth ball, etc. I also tried many Spinning Babies techniques to ensure that baby was in the best possible position. Still no change. I decided to schedule an acupuncture appointment to try to get things moving. I went in at about 10 am Friday, July 8th, and started feeling waves shortly after. Thinking this could be another round of practice waves, we decided to grab lunch before going home. When we got home, I went to our bedroom, sat on the birth ball and listened to my Hypnobabies tracks with my headphones on. The waves kept coming, but they were not consistent. We ate dinner at about 7pm, and sent the boys to bed around 8pm. At that point, the waves became much stronger, and I felt the need to have my midwife and doula there. I sat on the toilet because I felt most comfortable there. As each wave came, I would relax all my muscles, lean on my husband, and use my “Peace” cue for an instant wave of hypno-anesthesia. My waves were about 3 minutes apart now. I began feeling a little nausea and the waves became more powerful. The midwives arrived and decided to check my dilation. They told me I was at a 6, and that baby’s head seemed higher up than they would like to see at that point. In hindsight, I think that I should have decided not to know how far dilated I was because I know that is not a good indicator for how long the birth will take. We don’t give birth by numbers! But, when I heard I was at a 6, I felt discouraged because I believed that I would be farther along than that. This caused me to let in a little fear, and I did feel some discomfort at this point. Thankfully, my wonderful hypno-doula, Laura, was there to assure me that I was doing great, and that dilation only tells us where I am in that moment, not how long it will take. She used my cue words to help me back into hypnosis. The midwives offered to do some cranial sacrum on my pelvis because they believed my little guy’s chin wasn’t tucked, and his head was getting stuck on my pelvis. I agreed, and I did figure 8’s with my hips until my midwife got the knot out. As soon as that happened, I no longer felt nauseous, and I was much more comfortable. I believe now that I was not going into my birthing time before the acupuncture because baby’s head was getting caught on the knot, so my body was trying to move him to a better position. I think that, had I not done the acupuncture, I may not have gone into my birthing time for a while, but he may have been in a better position and his birth may have been faster and more comfortable.
Laura suggested I go to my room and lay down with my husband for some privacy and relaxation. I tried laying down through two waves, but they were very intense, and my body did NOT want to lay down. I ready to get into the birthing tub, but before that, the midwife needed to check on baby’s heartbeat during a wave just to make sure everything was going well. They determined all was well, but then another wave was coming on, so I said that I would get in the tub as soon as that wave ended. I knelt next to my bed, with my arms folded on top of the bed. I suddenly felt “pushy”, and I said so, but very quietly. Next thing I knew, I felt his head crowning! I no longer cared about anything except following my body’s natural urge to push. My midwives were across the room getting gloves on, and had no clue that I was pushing! Thankfully, husband and doula were in the hallway and hear my low, tonal noise that my husband remembered from my last Hypnobabies birth. They immediately RAN into the room, pulled my underwear down RIGHT as his head came out, about 2 seconds later he slipped out into my husband’s hands. I was absolutely in shock, as I had no idea it was time to push until I felt his head. His cord was a little short, so he rested on my tummy while we allowed the cord to continue pulsing. At this point we were surprised to find out that we had our third baby boy!!
As soon as the cord stopped pulsing, we cut it and brought him up to the breast for skin to skin time. He nursed right away.
I was surprised to find that, even though he came out FAST, there was no tearing!! I was so thankful for this, because I had an episiotomy with my first, and tore with my second, and it was such a blessing that I did not have to worry about any pain from tearing this time.
Active birthing time began sometime around 8pm on July 8th, and he was born 4 hours later at 12:22am on July 9th.
Though I did not have the waterbirth I had envisioned, it was a beautiful, peaceful, fast home birth! It was the way his birth was meant to be, and I will cherish the memory for the rest of my life. I am so thankful for the skills and information my husband and I learned from Hypnobabies! It truly makes a huge difference!